Sometimes I feel stuck. You know what I mean? That “Am I doing the right thing?”, “Am I where I’m supposed to be?”, “Am I fulfilling my purpose?” kind of stuck. This past year I’ve struggled a lot with fear and uncertainty about the future. In fact, I haven’t written a blog post in over two months because of those things. But God is teaching me a lot through this season. So here are some truths to help combat that fear. (I’m speaking to myself here, but I hope they resonate with you too.)
Embrace where you are.
Many of us have this idea in our minds of what life is supposed to look like. So when we stray from that path, we freak out. If our lifestyle doesn’t fit into our cookie-cutter expectations, we think we are somehow failing. But even when you feel like you should be doing something else, that you are wasting your time in your current circumstances, there is a reason you are right where you are. There are lessons that you need to learn that you can only learn here and now. It’s all about God’s timing. Trust it.
Stop the negative voices.
There are going to be people who give us a hard time. Parents, teachers, bosses, friends, even church. But more often, the negativity comes from ourselves. We can be our biggest critic. So stop it! And maybe tell others to stop it too (you can actually do that). Explain how you feel and what you need and that they need to back off. Negativity isn’t getting you anywhere.
Give yourself some grace.
In the same idea, we have got to stop thinking we have to have it all together. Perfection doesn’t exist. No matter what the world tells you. We are all growing and learning. So embrace the joy in the journey and know that you are trying. And you are enough, right now, as you are. And nothing will ever make you more or less enough.
Don’t compare your journey to someone else’s.
When we flip through Instagram and every other picture is of someone snagging an amazing job or getting married or having babies or flying somewhere new, it can be hard not to think of ourselves as failures. But God has a purpose that is tailored just for you. If you spend too much time focusing on how “flawless” others’ journeys appear to be, you might miss out on your own path—the one that will bring you the most joy. So you do you!
Punch fear in the face.
Fear can be crippling. But we can’t let our fear keep us from doing good. Let’s face it—money is real, obligations are real. Sometimes, even when we feel like we’re not on the right path, we have to buckle down and survive anyway—live into where we are at the time. That might mean getting a job that you don’t necessarily want because you have to pay rent. That might mean seeing a counselor or exercising or finding a good church or surrounding yourself with friends who encourage you. That might mean taking a lot of naps. But whatever you do, don’t let fear keep you from taking care of yourself.
Celebrate every victory.
Big or small, every time you succeed, throw a party. Don’t be so focused on the big picture that you forget to celebrate the little victories. You owe it to yourself. Every big success came from a thousand little ones.
Life is messy. And confusing. We are bombarded by so many messages, so many paths and ways to find happiness. Grab a mentor, join a book club, or call your momma if you need to (all great ways to get advice), but there is only one person who really knows what’s up. Who has your best interest at heart and who holds the universe in His hands. That’s Jesus. He knows how real the struggle is. And He’s got your back. So stay close to Him, and He’ll guide you better than any human ever could.